How couples manage their finances together

One in 10 Americans don’t know their partner’s salary, according to new research.

A poll of 2,000 Americans in serious relationships, engaged or married split evenly by generation revealed that respondents aren’t just in the dark about the money that’s coming in.

Almost one in five (15%) aren’t sure how much their partner has in their savings, what their credit score is, or even where their partner spends most of their money.

But it appears that’s a two-way street, as 21% admit they also have their financial secrets.

Interestingly, savings also came out as the top secret respondents keep (38%), followed by how much debt they have (32%), where they spend the majority of their money (29%), or even how many different bank accounts they have (27%).

More than one-quarter (27%) of Gen Z keep their credit score from their partner, which is more than any other generation. 

Americans would prefer to have the “money talk” about six and half months into a relationship, but it took the average couple almost eight to start being transparent.

The average Gen Zer was right on schedule and began the conversation at the six-month marker.

The survey, which was conducted by OnePoll on behalf of the banking app Chime, found that when it came time to have that conversation, respondents started with topics like current expenses (22%), financial goals (20%), or budgeting (15%).

Results also revealed that 77% of respondents agree that being financially irresponsible is a turn-off and 22% have gone so far as to break up with someone because of how poorly they manage their finances.

When it comes to finances, a high salary (30%) is the top desirable trait when it comes to what they prefer in a partner.

That narrowly beat out zero debt (28%) and far surpassed a good credit score (19%).

When asked how respondents manage their finances with their current partner, most (34%) each have their own separate accounts, while 30% have one shared account, and 28% share an account for bills and joint expenses and then their account for spending money.

However, that doesn’t necessarily mean those are the ideal ways to split finances.

In their opinion, the best way to manage finances with a partner is to share an account for joint expenses and keep their account for spending (44%).

This may be why 43% agree that whoever makes more money in a relationship should pay for the majority of bills and expenses.

But even so, only 11% split their bills based on their salary or income levels. 

“Reaching goals with your partner can be one of the more rewarding parts of a relationship. So we weren’t surprised to see that three in four people find being financially irresponsible a ‘turn off’ – a majority of Americans don’t want to be held back on their financial progress,” explained Janelle Sallenave, Chime’s Chief Experience Officer. “We believe transparency is critical to building trust with your financial institution, and, of course, the same goes for relationships. Being honest and direct will set you up for success, so it’s exciting to hear that just 21% of those surveyed say they keep financial secrets from their partners.”

The survey also asked how couples manage non-essential spending such as vacations and events, and 29% simply pay what they can afford.

Another 26% said that each partner pays half, while 19% split it based on who has the most disposable income at the time.

The average couple fights about money about once per month, though millennials and Gen Xers tend to battle twice each month.

Three in 10 respondents would be upset if their partner spent $200 or less without their knowledge, though it would take more than $430 ($437.80) for the average respondent to be mad. 

When it comes to dates, most respondents (57%) take turns paying with their partner.

At the end of the day, almost two-thirds (63%) find it easy to manage their finances with their partner.

“While 26% of couples say they’re both savers, a similar amount (25%) say that they tend to save while their partner tends to spend,” said Dr. Traci Williams, clinical psychologist and certified financial therapist on behalf of Chime. “Couples can get on the same page by working on their financial goals together, discussing the values they share, and making plans for their future. A great place to start is sticking to a budget, which we were glad to see more than half (52%) of couples do!”