This better not be a new dating trend.
A man on a dating app messaged a single mom to ask her if she’d be willing to put her kids up for adoption so that he could date someone child-free, according to a Reddit post.
A photo of the message was posted to a few Reddit forums about a year ago, but its most recent re-posting in the r/mildyinfuriating thread three days ago has garnered more than 15,000 views — along with a bunch of heartbreaking comments detailing similar stories.
“Would you be willing to put your children up for adoption? I want to date someone without kids, so looking for someone who is willing to free themselves of their current kids xx,” read the dating app message from a man named Aaron to a woman named Lauren, according to a screenshot of the exchange shared on the thread.
Several commenters on Reddit suggested that the man might be joking, but just when it seemed like it might be an immature prank, others shared comparable stories themselves.
“My mother-in-law was friends with a lady who actually did this back in the 90’s. Her son and his son would fight (they were little kids.) so she gave him up,” one commenter said.
“My MIL stopped being her friend when she did that. Effed up,” they continued, adding: “People who give up their kids for partners are f–ked,”
A fellow Redditor said they stopped talking to someone who gave up their kids for a partner.
“I actually know someone that did this as well. Abandoned her young child and intentionally got pregnant with her convict boyfriend that already had a wife,” the commenter said. “We all cut her off.”
Another person shockingly claimed their mom gave them up because of a man.
“My mom gave my grandparents custody because the guy she was dating at the time told her he didn’t want to be with someone with kids. This happens all the time. Men like this really exist and women are out there who give up custody for those men,” they wrote.
“Edit: my grandparents adopted my sister and I and raised us until we became adults. I was 5 and my sister was 18 months old,” the comment continued.
“Someone said that to my mom when I was younger,” another commenter confessed.
Based on others’ comments, this isn’t only happening on dating apps with potential suitors — and one mom allegedly found herself in this situation with her baby’s father.
Ten months ago, a poster on Reddit asked for advice in a pregnancy forum called r/pregnant because she was dating a man who asked her to put their then-unborn daughter up for adoption.
“I am currently 24 weeks pregnant and also have my current child with my ex-partner. My current partner wants me to give our daughter up for adoption as he is not ready to be a parent and he says he can’t have a kid with someone who already has a kid. I told him I simply can’t do it,” her shocking post read.
Her partner told her that she could do what she wanted, but if she kept the child, he would “move on with his life,” she claimed.
“He has threatened to leave me multiple times. He left me at my doctor’s appointment the other day to get beer and he stayed in the car while I went through my appointment alone because he said he didn’t want her and I told him I can’t just give up on her,” another portion of her post read.
Commenters shared their support for the mom in the comments section and asked her to choose herself and her child over her unsupportive partner.
“You can do it on your own. You already have split from someone (don’t know the circumstances) and had a child with them, this is no different,” a commenter wrote. “A ‘man’ like your bf will do nothing but make the whole process a million times harder and more stressful.
“You know what you have to do, sorry it’s the hard choice,” they continued.
“This relationship ended 24 weeks ago, sorry to say … Oh and save any and all text messages he sends about this because it sounds like you could easily file for some custody and child support with some of what he’s saying,” another added.
“Please break up with him, the stress is not good for you. He is toxic and controlling. Raise her by yourself and get child support from him,” said a third.
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