Dear Abby: My fiancée has been secretly seeing a male ‘friend’ behind my back

Dear Abby: I am a 63-year-old man. My fiancee (57) and I have been dating exclusively, or so I thought, for four years. I just found out she has a male friend she has been seeing without my knowledge. They go to lunch and dinner and other activities.  She says they are just friends. He … Read more

Dear Abby: I left my wife over her judgmental religious beliefs — then she turned my kids against me

DEAR ABBY: After nearly 18 years of marriage, I left my wife. Our daughters were 10 and 12. We had married quickly, and only later did I realize how deeply judgmental her “born-again” beliefs were — so much so that she gradually cut off my entire side of the family. I tried for years to … Read more

Dear Abby: My fiancé spends all night playing video games — it’s killing our relationship

DEAR ABBY: My fiance, “Dustin,” and I have been a couple for five years. We live together and are fairly happy. The problem is his gaming habits. At first, it wasn’t an issue because I also play the occasional video game. Since moving into our own place, I’ve noticed Dustin has started spending a tremendous … Read more

Dear Abby: My happy new-mom moments are hurting my struggling friend

DEAR ABBY: My best friend and I got pregnant, each with our first child, with our due dates a week apart. We felt blessed to be going through this amazing experience at the same time. Our babies are now 2 months old. I am adjusting well to motherhood. I feel it’s coming naturally to me. … Read more

Dear Abby: I love my boyfriend, but his daughter’s baby talk is unbearable

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing “Brad” for nine months. We both have children of our own. He has a daughter, and I have a son. The little girl is a few months older than my 7-year-old son. I can see myself having a family with Brad.  However, one of my biggest pet peeves is when … Read more

Dear Abby: I’ve told her to lose weight, but she won’t listen, would a letter be better?

DEAR ABBY: My friend of many years, whom I consider to truly be part of the family, has made food the only thing that makes her happy. Besides my husband, she’s all I have left. She went to a doctor a couple years ago who told her she must lose weight, but she ended up … Read more

Dear Abby: Am I aging — or just telling the same stories too often?

DEAR ABBY: I am 70 and consider my mental faculties to be normal. One aging issue my wife and I have noticed is that I tend to repeat stories to our children, grandchildren and friends. Our children can be less than forgiving toward this old boomer as they deliver a comment like, “Yeah, we’ve already … Read more

Dear Abby: I’m being harrassed about an explicit video that I’m pretty sure I didn’t star in

DEAR ABBY: A few years ago, I started receiving mysterious phone calls from a man claiming to have in his possession videos of me performing sexual acts. I do not know where he would have gotten something like that. I changed my phone number, but somehow he got my new number and started harassing me … Read more

Dear Abby: I want to leave my angry fiancé, but I’m afraid to hurt his kids

DEAR ABBY: I am a 54-year-old woman who, after 40 years, reconnected with my childhood best friend, “Neil.” We are now engaged. I have no children, but Neil has two girls ages 11 and 13. The 11-year-old is in therapy and on medication for depression and anxiety. I love them as if they were my … Read more

Dear Abby: I’m not worry-free about this child-free wedding

DEAR ABBY: My youngest son is getting married this spring, and they have decided they want a child-free wedding reception. We have three grandchildren, ages 3 to 7. The wedding is where my son and his fiancée live, so we are all traveling. They have asked all three kids to be in the wedding party … Read more

Dear Abby: My daughter is standing by her mother after a shocking murder charge

DEAR ABBY: I am writing for advice on how to be supportive of my adult children in light of an alleged crime committed by their mother. She was arrested for first-degree murder. The victim was my children’s younger half-sibling. I am especially challenged dealing with my daughter. She is supporting her mother in this. She … Read more

Dear Abby: My charity donations unleashed a flood of nonstop fundraising mail

DEAR ABBY: Do charities and nonprofits share or sell donor information? For years, maybe decades, I’ve made quarterly contributions to two well-known charities for children’s cancer research hospitals, and I truly believe in what they do. However, over the last few years, I have started receiving an increasing number of requests for money.  One continues … Read more

Dear Abby: I don’t see any point in meeting my daughter’s sister from the same mister

Dear Abby: I don’t see any point in meeting my daughter’s sister from the same mister

DEAR ABBY: I have been widowed for seven years. My husband served in the Air Force in Saigon during the conflict in Vietnam. We met and married shortly after he returned from his hitch overseas. We had two daughters together.  Recently, my older daughter was notified through social media that she has a half-sister, “Leiba,” … Read more

Dear Abby: The mothers of the bride are taking over wedding plans

Dear Abby: The mothers of the bride are taking over wedding plans

DEAR ABBY: My 33-year-old daughter is getting married, and the mothers have taken over her wedding plans. They want more than 200 guests, a full Catholic ceremony, fine wines, a full bar, plated dinner and a live band.  My daughter wants to please everyone but is not a practicing Catholic. She wants a small, intimate … Read more

Dear Abby: A memorial is for paying your last respects, but I have no respect for him

Dear Abby: A memorial is for paying your last respects, but I have no respect for him

DEAR ABBY: My brother “Earl” and I always had a very bad relationship. When I was 6 and Earl was 13, he molested me. Actually, he took my virginity. My mother caught him but whipped both of us and told me I should have known better than to allow it to happen. Fast-forward to when … Read more

Dear Abby: Cruise companions come with one big problem: She never stops talking

Dear Abby: Cruise companions come with one big problem: She never stops talking

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have friends who are kind, intelligent and warm. However, as we have spent more time with them, “Phyllis’” compulsive talking has become a real problem for us. She hijacks whichever one of us is sitting next to her and starts a monologue that goes on and on.  Phyllis doesn’t … Read more

Dear Abby: My nephew lacks survival skills. How do I get out of this stinky situation?

Dear Abby: My nephew lacks survival skills. How do I get out of this stinky situation?

DEAR ABBY: I suggested to my husband that he invite his nephew “Ryan” (age 26) to stay with us. Ryan definitely needed some male direction. He was homeless, jobless and didn’t even know how to apply for a job. Ryan is not mentally challenged. He simply was never taught anything until he was thrown out … Read more

Dear Abby: Everyone offered help when I got sick, but no one showed up when I needed them

Dear Abby: Everyone offered help when I got sick, but no one showed up when I needed them

DEAR ABBY: I have a chronic illness and have been on a long-term leave of absence from my job for two years now. I have always surrounded myself with good people and have been blessed with great friends and family. When I was diagnosed, everyone was supportive. There were many platitudes, not the least of … Read more

Dear Abby: My husband acts like our failing marriage is all my fault but I still love him

Dear Abby: My husband acts like our failing marriage is all my fault but I still love him

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been living with my mom for a little over a year. Our 4-year-old lives here also. Mom has guardianship of her because of our past. A month ago, my husband decided he was leaving. I didn’t leave with him because of my daughter. Now he acts like everything … Read more