“Am I The Asshole for telling my cousin to stop sending me t-t pics?”
That’s how one woman started her now-viral thread on a popular forum.
But don’t worry, there’s no incestuous business going on and “it’s a lot more simple than it sounds,” the poster admits.
She’s just got an over-friendly cousin who’s a bit too keen to share her breastfeeding journey with her relatives.
Posting to the Am I The A–hole forum, a channel designed to debate real-life dilemmas, the woman explained what went down.
“My cousin recently had a baby about six months ago and she is obsessed with sending breastfeeding pics,” she says.
“She’s very pro-breastfeeding and an advocate for destigmatizing it.”
The OP then shares that she feels the same way. “I don’t think women should be shamed or have to hide this natural process,” she says.
But it’s gotten to the point where she feels overwhelmed by the constant daily updates.
“She sends soooo many pictures of her son and her t-ts. It’s sometimes three or four a day, most days, for the last six months.
“As I said, I don’t think she should have to hide it, but I told her I don’t want to see it all day every day.”
Well, safe to say that it didn’t go down well with her cousin, who was left feeling very “pissed off.”
Her cousin basically lumped her in with all the other “bigoted” people who don’t support women sharing the realities of having a baby.
The poster was told by the new mum, “It’s a beautiful thing and she can share it however and whenever she wants.”
Ultimately, the woman just hopes that her cousin can find a middle ground where she’s not ashamed, but also “doesn’t constantly plaster it everywhere.”
“I’m sure I’m not the only one she’s sending these to,” she predicts.
The woman concluded her post by asking, “Am I just another bigot for thinking these pictures are different from any other pic? Am I the a–hole for telling her I don’t want to see these pictures?”
People weighed in with their thoughts in the comments, and the general consensus was that she wasn’t in the wrong.
The top comment read: “That’s honestly really weird, and I’d even ask, ‘Are there pictures of you doing ANYTHING ELSE with the baby?’ Like why is that the only photo op?
“You’re also setting a boundary with her and she is mad about this. Not everyone wants to see the same picture a million times. It becomes annoying. Maybe tell her you don’t mind receiving pictures, but you need fewer breastfeeding ones.”
“Not the a–hole – you are not her personal Titstagram,” another user pointed out.
Someone else pointed out that, “It’s one thing to send a picture here and there but to send that many a day seems a bit creepy and obsessive.
“You are not like the [bigots] and she was way out of line.”
And then this person took a balanced approach, acknowledging, “While it is wonderful that she is having this amazing experience, she is crossing your boundaries of consent. She has nothing to be ashamed of but your wishes should be respected also.”
Then another person suggested, “If she really wants, take some pictures for herself or people who ask.
“You’re better off destigmatizing it by just breastfeeding in public in general and not taking pictures of it and sending it to people who don’t want to see a picture of it.”