He may be the biggest jerk in the Big Apple, if not the universe.
A 34-year-old NYC woman recently went on a first date with a man she met on the dating app Hinge — only to receive outrageous texts the next morning from the clueless cad rating her looks and commenting on her weight, and somehow thinking the unwanted critique would land him a second date.
“I was expecting to date the woman from the photos — happy to casually stay in touch until the weight is gone and then we can see,” the 45-year-old financier wrote.
“Shallow Hal” unabashedly rated her face, personality and sexual compatibility on a scale of 1 to 10 — giving her personality a 10, face a 10 and sexual compatibility a 5.
“But can get to 8.5 with some convincing and open-mindedness,” he generously offered.
The woman, MC, who requested The Post not reveal her full identity, gave him high marks for one thing — his unintended sense of humor.
“I laughed out loud. It was so clear to me that he wanted to put me down,” she said.
She sent screenshots of the messages to Brooklyn-based online dating coach Erika Ettin, who posted them to her Instagram account @alittlenudge on Nov. 4, where they sparked a firestorm of comments.
“Who the f–k does this man think he is? asked @reemazaman, one of 1,044 commenters.
“He’s absolutely looking for a woman who doesn’t realize her worth. Very predatory,” wrote @jvxoxo.
“It’s nice when the trash takes itself out,” added @kerryberkowitz.
MC described her toad as a Vin Diesel lookalike.
She would not identify him for safety reasons.
They had their first — and only — date on Oct. 30 at Ascent Lounge in Columbus Circle.
The red flags were immediate — and as glaring as his shiny bald head.
“In the first five minutes, he told me he was seven figures in debt,” she said. “And that’s why he wanted a woman who was financially independent.”
He threw her for a loop by confiding in her that he’d beaten cancer — but then followed by asking her if she’d consider a threesome.
“He was incredibly brazen and upfront with what he was looking for,” she said.
And he was offensively superficial too.
“He told me about his furniture from Restoration Hardware and showed me pictures of his current and previous apartment,” she said. “And told me how much he pays in rent.”
Despite his morning-after complaint about her weight and that her dating profile photo did not match her current look, during the date he kept complimenting her.
“He kept saying how beautiful I was,” MC recalled. “He even was playing with my hair.”
MC already knew it would be their first — and last — encounter.
“I didn’t want to see him again,” she said. “I don’t care about your looks, but I do care about your values.”
She woke up the next morning at 9 a.m. to his rude messages, which she guessed were the result of her being upfront about not wanting to sleep with him.
“I think that’s why he also used that in the rating,” she said. “It was this little-boy moment of not getting his way and wanting to let the other person get hurt.”
MC didn’t reply and blocked him on her phone.
“I didn’t owe him a response. He’s not worth my time,” she said. “I value myself more.”
Ettin, who receives hundreds of messages a day from singles, said she felt compelled to post the crass messages.
“I was so shocked by it that I wanted to share. I was disgusted by the fact that someone thought it was appropriate to send his inner thoughts to his date,” she said. “It’s easy when you’re hiding behind a screen.”
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