This sweet date quickly turned sour before it even began.
A New Jersey woman recounted the “red flag” behavior that prompted her to cancel an ice cream date with a Hinge match after the guy refused to compromise on location.
In a Threads post this week, singleton Krishna Shah said that she agreed to meet her dating app match for a dessert date.
He asked her to meet him at 8:30 p.m. at a spot in an area she “was not familiar with … but it was bordering a shady town.” Not to mention, the ice cream parlor was rated a 3.4, which she said was “a no for me.”
“I politely told him I wasn’t feeling that spot and sent two other suggestions (rated 4.7 and 4.8) and one of them was even closer to the town he told me he lived in,” Shah recalled, later adding that she had suggested Honey and Hive Artisanal Ice Cream in Maplewood and Falls Creamery in Little Falls in lieu of his Cold Stone Creamery request.
“I asked if either of those work for him.”
“Nope,” Shah claimed her date responded. “I sent you a spot, if that doesn’t work for you then it is what it is.”
She unmatched the mystery man “because what kind of red flag a—s behavior is that?” She clarified that the “red flag part” of his actions was “not offering their potential date a choice as to where to meet up,” not that he didn’t agree to her suggestions.
“That’s how online dating is going, friends. This is why I’ve taken a break from dating and it seems I will be extending that break,” she explained.
“If you’re not going to add value to my life, I’d rather stay single. I’m old school and would really rather meet someone in person.”
Her post stuck a nerve with some eligible bachelors who called her “annoying” and “entitled,” while others praised her instincts.
“Women want a guy that can lead. A guy that can make plans,” chided one critic. “If u wanted to pick where u went you should have made plans. Instead u showed him that when he plans a date, you will judge the place he chooses without even giving it a chance and trusting his judgement and it’s all about what u want. Redflag.”
“He sounds like a douche, but you also sound annoying, so maybe it was actually a good match,” snarked another.
“Well, if I’m paying…we’re going where I decided,” argued one user. “If you’re paying, let’s go where you decide… I respect his decision.”
“I drove 30 miles to meet a date in her home town so she’d feel more at ease than driving to mine,” someone else commented. “If a guy won’t meet you at a nicer ice cream spot, that tells you all you need to know.”
“To the People responding that she is some kid Of entitled brat… is that what you would tell your daughter if she felt the area was unsafe and wasn’t feeling subpar dessert on a first date? asking for a friend’s daughter,” one person wrote.
“Girl if a man insists on a 3.4 star date spot you already know he’s gonna be a 1.2 star boyfriend,” quipped another.
“He’s looking for someone he can easily push around,” an aghast woman commented. “Ew ew ew.”
“There’s nothing grosser than a man who doesn’t want you to feel safe on a date,” another chimed in.
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