DEAR ABBY: My 40-year-old daughter is on weight-loss injections and a no-sugar diet. I offered to bake her a sugar-free cheesecake, and she agreed, but she asked me to make a “tester” cake three days before. I explained that the cake has a lengthy preparation process, involving a very slow bake in a water bath … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been having a friend-with-benefits relationship with a man I’ll call “Gene.” We are both in our 70s. He lives an hour away, and we see each other once a month. Gene is married, but his wife is disabled, and their relationship has deteriorated. We used to work together, and he was … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I’m blessed at 38 to have my first and likely only grandbaby. She’s PERFECT. My daughter, “Robin,” is stressed. She’s left alone with the baby all day, every day, while her partner works. Robin sleeps only when he’s home. I understand her frustration. I raised her and her brother, 12 months apart, on … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I lost my wife of 20 years four months ago after a prolonged illness. I retired at 62 and became her primary caretaker. The job of caretaker is endless and stressful, and yet rewarding. A female friend of many years (“Dinah”) came to the memorial. I grieved, attended Grief Share and read articles … Read more
DEAR ABBY: My father died by suicide three years ago. My sister, who was initially supportive, later drunk-dialed our mother and said a bunch of nasty things about her and me. Mom didn’t cut the conversation short and later told me what was said, which included that Dad had done it because my other sister … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am struggling with a recent diagnosis of severe liver disease (non-alcoholic) and need to lose 30 pounds. I have had two bouts of cancer in five years as well as arthritis. I have dedicated myself to explicitly following my doctor’s directions to eat organic and low-fat foods and to exercise daily to … Read more
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my mom invited all of my family on an international trip during the month of October. One year ago, my sister called me asking if I could “cover some things” for her. When I agreed and asked why, she said she and our parents were going on the international trip … Read more
Abby Lee Miller has filed a medical malpractice lawsuit against Cedars-Sinai Marina Hospital in Los Angeles and two doctors over shocking allegations related to her 2020 spinal surgery. According to TMZ, the “Dance Moms” star, 59, claimed that doctors left a catheter component in her abdomen during the procedure over four years ago. Abby Lee … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 22 years. It was a normal relationship, and I was very happy. However, over the last 12 years, my wife has changed. There is ZERO affection, no hugging, holding hands, and nothing sexual. We are like roommates. She blames it on having been molested when she was a … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced from my ex-husband, “Cliff,” for a year and a half. My nearly adult children live with me. They rarely see their dad. Our divorce was relatively painless, but the custody battle was prolonged, and most of my savings were drained in the process. Cliff pays child support, but I’m … Read more
DEAR ABBY: The floor I work on has a cluster of offices surrounding a central kitchen area. Fifteen of us share the appliances, including a hot water reservoir with a tap. The building is old and has lead pipes, so a service brings in large plastic bottles for a water cooler. Usually, whoever arrives first … Read more
DEAR ABBY: A man I know has been married for 40 years. His wife gets mad at him for small things and stops talking to him for three to four months at a time. Also, he will make her supper, and she’ll make something else. Or she will make supper and quickly put it in … Read more
DEAR ABBY: We have an annual weekend family reunion that includes family and significant others along with their children. Most of the children are adults now. One of them (my niece) was recently married and is asking if her new husband’s sister (and possibly her boyfriend) can come to the reunion. We don’t have anyone … Read more
DEAR ABBY: My best friend “Carla” and I haven’t spoken for several years, which breaks my heart. Her son was getting married. The dress was evening cocktail attire. The venue was an hour and a half from where I live. I don’t drive. At the time, I was having financial difficulties and was worried about … Read more
DEAR ABBY: What do you say when going to visit a not-so-close relative who is dying? I have an aunt who has been diagnosed with late-stage cancer and has recently gone on hospice. She may have one to four months to live. I used to spend time around her during family functions when I was … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am the youngest of four sisters. I lost one of them, “Rachel,” to cancer several years ago. She and I were considered the “failures” of the family because we had to work hard to take care of our families, whereas our other two sisters married into money. Rachel didn’t take part in … Read more
DEAR ABBY: My in-laws have repeatedly attempted to destroy my marriage. My husband knows they trash-talk us to family, thinking we don’t know it, but he won’t put up any meaningful boundaries or check them whatsoever. I have lost all respect for him because he lies to me, telling me he has confronted them, when … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I see a psychiatrist and psychologist for generalized anxiety disorder, major depression disorder and borderline personality disorder. According to my doctors, my psychiatric disorders are a result of the 44 years of abuse I received from my mother, as well as the abuse she allowed others to inflict on me. Her physical abuse … Read more
DEAR ABBY: We asked our 19-year-old college daughter, “Lulu,” to dog-sit and housesit sit several months ago. She knew our rule of no visitors allowed in our home while we were out of town. Because of this, we didn’t feel we needed to prepare the house by filing mail and documents away prior to our … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been married 10 years. My husband is from another country, and the last six years haven’t been easy. I’ve been the sole provider for our family, on the advice of our lawyer, while we were getting his paperwork complete (my husband refused to work illegally). I have stood by this man … Read more