Dear Abby: A single graduation party invitation has torn my entire family apart

Dear Abby: A single graduation party invitation has torn my entire family apart

DEAR ABBY: My sister, “Randee,” and I are experiencing a falling-out with our older brother, “Darren,” which has left us hurt and confused. We come from a large, tightly knit family, and there’s always some sort of celebration happening. We siblings are in our 40s and 50s, so there are also lots of nieces and … Read more

Dear Abby: I’m a 59-year-old virgin — and my wife of 20 years doesn’t want to have sex with me

Dear Abby: I’m a 59-year-old virgin — and my wife of 20 years doesn’t want to have sex with me

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 59-year-old married virgin male. My wife has an IUD for medical reasons. She thinks it’s the man’s job to initiate sex. She has never shown any interest in sex in nearly 20 years of marriage. I love her, but I am ready to divorce her.  I do not want to go … Read more

Dear Abby: My rude father-in-law keeps calling me for help after getting scammed

Dear Abby: My rude father-in-law keeps calling me for help after getting scammed

DEAR ABBY: My husband, “Mark,” and his father have a strained relationship due to things that occurred when Mark was growing up. Mark is an only child, and his mother has passed away. Since I met my father-in-law prior to our marriage eight years ago, he has never taken any interest in me, Mark or … Read more

Dear Abby: I’m worried that I might have an affair with my best friend’s husband

Dear Abby: I’m worried that I might have an affair with my best friend’s husband

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been friends with a married couple for over 40 years and knew them both before they knew each other. She’s popular, has a great sense of humor and is an excellent wife, mother, grandmother, neighbor, etc. I actually became “friends” with the husband first (quotes because he basically forced his friendship on … Read more

Dear Abby: My significant other’s 8-year-old daughter is terrorizing me

Dear Abby: My significant other’s 8-year-old daughter is terrorizing me

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my significant other for five years and have helped raise his daughter, “Maeve,” since she was a toddler. She is now 8, and her behavior — and his enabling — are pushing me to my breaking point. Maeve demands her father do everything for her, including bathing and dressing … Read more

Dear Abby: I’ve spoiled my grown kids for decades, they can’t even send a thank-you card

Dear Abby: I’ve spoiled my grown kids for decades, they can’t even send a thank-you card

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been happily married for 30 years. We both were previously widowed and have grown children and a large number of grandchildren. From the beginning of our marriage, we funded many things for our children — cars, college, weddings, eating out, shopping trips, vacations, etc. Because we’re now retired, … Read more

Dear Abby: I dumped my ex 52 years ago and she threatened to sue me, can I still reach out?

Dear Abby: I dumped my ex 52 years ago and she threatened to sue me, can I still reach out?

DEAR ABBY: Fifty-two years ago, while in high school, I met a young lady. We hung out then and for two years after graduation. We did everything together, and at the time it seemed she was my soulmate. Then I dumped her with no explanation except that I had met someone else. I married that … Read more

Dear Abby: My son-in-law won’t stop sending me cat videos

Dear Abby: My son-in-law won’t stop sending me cat videos

DEAR ABBY: I was sexually assaulted at work about 20 years ago. I went through an off-and-on cycle with that supervisor for almost a year. He used many different tactics: isolating me, befriending me, apologizing insincerely, stating that he was a pillar of the community and no one would believe it, and even telling me … Read more

Dear Abby: My sister-in-law doesn’t acknowledge or reciprocrate gifts

Dear Abby: My sister-in-law doesn’t acknowledge or reciprocrate gifts

DEAR ABBY: My sister-in-law lives across the country. For years, we shipped each other’s children Christmas gifts. A few years ago, she went through a difficult divorce and has since stopped sending gifts. While we didn’t discuss it, I figured it was a financial strain, which is understandable. My issue is that we continued to … Read more

Dear Abby: We are not over the elderly neighbor’s neglectful caregiver who holds his power of attorney

Dear Abby: We are not over the elderly neighbor’s neglectful caregiver who holds his power of attorney

DEAR READERS: The mailbox was bursting with responses to the Oct. 9 letter from Frustrated Neighbor, whose 94-year-old neighbor is bedridden and nominally cared for by a woman who also holds his power of attorney. I’ll let the readers speak for themselves: “Red flags everywhere! The neighbor says the caregiver has his POA, which means … Read more

Dear Abby: One of my neighbors died and none of his family wants to upkeep the house

Dear Abby: One of my neighbors died and none of his family wants to upkeep the house

DEAR ABBY: How much should a neighborhood do to keep up a vacant house? About 15 years ago, a couple in their 50s moved into the end of my cul-de-sac. Their two children were out of college; the son lived elsewhere, and the daughter lived with them. Almost two years ago, the dad died suddenly. … Read more

Dear Abby: Our niece keeps leaving us hanging because she can’t stay on schedule

Dear Abby: Our niece keeps leaving us hanging because she can’t stay on schedule

DEAR ABBY: We live 500 miles from our nearest relatives, but a niece is attending a university about 50 miles away. We invite her to join us for holidays and weekends, and sometimes she asks to visit to escape from roommate drama.  We love having her, but she often says she’s coming at one time … Read more

Dear Abby: I chose an Italy trip over my niece’s wedding and I’m starting to feel remorse

Dear Abby: I chose an Italy trip over my niece’s wedding and I’m starting to feel remorse

DEAR ABBY: I’m 78, and my husband is 79. This past year, he lost $500,000 through a fraudulent bitcoin site. Fortunately, we have $500,000 left, but I’m so angry about this, you can’t imagine — all of my hard-earned savings, gone. I’ve had a lifelong dream to go to Italy to see all the amazing … Read more

Dear Abby: My friend is reselling the expensive birthday gifts I give her son

Dear Abby: My friend is reselling the expensive birthday gifts I give her son

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are friendly with another couple, “Matt” and “Mara.” They have two young children, one of whom is autistic. We have five children, so we understand the daily challenges of parenting. My husband and Matt have been friends since preschool. I met Mara soon after she and Matt started dating. … Read more

Dear Abby: Should I tell my son the truth about his beloved grandma?

Dear Abby: Should I tell my son the truth about his beloved grandma?

DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of a beautiful 30-year-old son, “Caleb,” who’s married, employed and happy. We have a close relationship, and he thinks Mom and Dad (married 35 years) are awesome. He was also close to his “perfect” grandma, who died recently. He adored her, and she loved and spoiled him. What he … Read more

Dear Abby: Our granddaughter reeks of pot when we pick her up from her mother’s house

Dear Abby: Our granddaughter reeks of pot when we pick her up from her mother’s house

DEAR ABBY: Our 24-year-old daughter, “Becca,” and her 26-year-old boyfriend, “Jason,” (the father of our 7-year-old granddaughter) recently bought a home. Jason works only part time — if he works at all — and has no interest in a full-time job. One issue, however, really weighs heavily on our minds. Whenever we pick up our … Read more

Dear Abby: My husband and I haven’t had sex in 7 years

Dear Abby: My husband and I haven’t had sex in 7 years

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for many years. We are both over 60. About eight years ago, I was diagnosed with, had surgery for and rehabbed from a benign brain tumor. It left me with considerable facial paralysis that I had further surgery to repair — all in all, 10 facial … Read more

Dear Abby: Should I feel guilty about having feelings for a former lover after my spouse died?

Dear Abby: Should I feel guilty about having feelings for a former lover after my spouse died?

DEAR ABBY: My spouse passed away from pancreatic cancer more than two years ago. We were together for 13 years and stood by each other during good and bad times. I was recently contacted by my first love from 44 years ago. We’ve been emailing, and I’ve been feeling emotions about him like when we … Read more

Dear Abby: Do I have to spend the holidays with my family?

Dear Abby: Do I have to spend the holidays with my family?

DEAR ABBY: I’m a single male who’s happy with his life, with plenty of friends and family. My issue is what I endure during the holidays. Every year, I’m invited over to Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I look forward to seeing family that I only see once or twice a year.  These get-togethers usually consist … Read more

Dear Abby: My brother-in-law won’t talk to be because I refuse to be his nanny

Dear Abby: My brother-in-law won’t talk to be because I refuse to be his nanny

DEAR ABBY: My twin sister and her husband are expecting their first child. I run a small business with my father. Although I work hard, neither of them seems to see or acknowledge my efforts. They consider me to be “sponging” off my father. They also disapprove of my relationship with my boyfriend because we … Read more