Dear Abby: They didn’t have sex, but these emails sure feel like cheating to me

Dear Abby: They didn’t have sex, but these emails sure feel like cheating to me

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my wife for three years. She asked me to fix her old computer. As I was doing that, I saw emails from her ex, “Doug,” dated a few months before our wedding. They started with the usual greetings, then proceeded to steamy back-and-forth emails. They set up a … Read more

Dear Abby: I love my husband — but I can’t stomach his cooking

Dear Abby: I love my husband — but I can’t stomach his cooking

DEAR ABBY: I never want to eat my husband’s cooking again. He refuses to follow recipes because he says they are “too hard.” He doesn’t use seasonings — or he uses the wrong ones. An example: He recently put cinnamon and cloves on zucchini and agreed with me that it tasted terrible. In addition to … Read more

Dear Abby: I’m dating a european and a NYC stand-up guy at the same time, and I don’t know who to choose

Dear Abby: I’m dating a european and a NYC stand-up guy at the same time, and I don’t know who to choose

DEAR ABBY: After a tumultuous breakup, I reconnected with two men through friends. I’ve known and liked them both for years. One lives in Europe; the other lives here in New York. Both are wonderful, respectful and caring, and I feel beyond lucky. Both say they are in love with me and want to pursue … Read more

Dear Abby: My husband blames everyone but himself for his problems

Dear Abby: My husband blames everyone but himself for his problems

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Ever since I have known him, he has had issues with depression and anxiety. I have tried to support him through these diagnoses.  He has attempted to go to therapy several times, but he never sticks with it. Once the therapist gets to … Read more

Dear Abby: My husband’s sons want him to dump me and move back in with their mother

Dear Abby: My husband’s sons want him to dump me and move back in with their mother

DEAR ABBY: My husband was married to a woman who lied to him about being pregnant. She wasn’t at the time, but she later became pregnant. They had two sons and divorced five years later. He never loved her. I married him eight years after that. We have been happily married for 45 years. I … Read more

Dear Abby: I desperately want an intimate relationship with my wife

Dear Abby: I desperately want an intimate relationship with my wife

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 20 years and have three kids: 19 (in college), 17 and 15. My wife and I sleep in separate beds and haven’t had sex in more than five years – her choice, not mine. We tried counseling in the past but never got anywhere. My wife is not investing … Read more

Dear Abby: My sister slept with my first love, and never apologized

Dear Abby: My sister slept with my first love, and never apologized

DEAR ABBY: When I was 16 and my sister “Daisy” was 18, I found out she was in a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, “Tyler” (also 18). I broke it off. She then asked if I minded her dating him. I’m sure I said I didn’t, but I thought, “Why ask? You were already having … Read more

Dear Abby: My son is dating another needy girl and I don’t like her

Dear Abby: My son is dating another needy girl and I don’t like her

DEAR ABBY: I don’t care for my son’s girlfriend, “Trish,” and he knows it. He seems to date needy women. It may boost his ego, but it doesn’t reflect well on the young lady. Our initial encounter with Trish wasn’t a good one. We found her to be rude and disrespectful. He claims she was … Read more

Dear Abby: Should I stay silent after my nephew assaulted my mom?

Dear Abby: Should I stay silent after my nephew assaulted my mom?

DEAR ABBY: My 20-year-old nephew, “Conrad,” has anger issues. His girlfriend recently broke up with him. He was upset and went to see his grandma, my mom. When Conrad pulled into her driveway, my mom’s boyfriend, “Rob,” was standing outside. Conrad told Rob to “stay out of the house.” Conrad’s girlfriend was there talking to … Read more

Dear Abby: I can’t forgive my mom for taking back my abusive father

Dear Abby: I can’t forgive my mom for taking back my abusive father

DEAR ABBY: I am estranged from my father and have been since I was 12. (I’m currently 26.) He was emotionally, psychologically and physically abusive to me, and cutting ties with him has been good for my well-being. My mom recently revealed to me that she has reconnected with him and they are dating again. … Read more

Dear Abby: My toxic coworker drains the life out of everyone in the office

Dear Abby: My toxic coworker drains the life out of everyone in the office

DEAR ABBY: I have worked with “Bev” for 12 years. She is insufferable. I love my job and my other co-workers, but they all feel the same way as I do. Bev is a domineering, bullying, entitled woman in her late 50s. She has two “friends” in the entire facility and, unfortunately, considers me one … Read more

Dear Abby: My wife had an affair with my enemy while we were separated

Dear Abby: My wife had an affair with my enemy while we were separated

DEAR ABBY: Years ago, my wife and I were separated. During that time, we still spent time together, had marital relations and went on many trips with our kids. During that period, two individuals who were supposed to be my friends started talking to my wife behind my back. Because they had crossed a line, … Read more

Dear Abby: My longtime co-worker has turned on me in the workplace

Dear Abby: My longtime co-worker has turned on me in the workplace

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been employed at the same company for 17 years. I’m the youngest person in the department, and I love my job and the people I work with. One co-worker I used to be close to has a son the same age as mine, and they did sports together and went to each … Read more

Dear Abby: I feel like I’m dating a married man

Dear Abby: I feel like I’m dating a married man

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a wonderful man for 10 months. He was married for 45 years until his wife died after a five-year illness. He is kind, thoughtful, smart, generous, and romantic. Our relationship is exclusive, and things could hardly be better. Recently, he and one of his grown daughters and her family … Read more

Dear Abby: My husband’s trauma is destroying our marriage

Dear Abby: My husband’s trauma is destroying our marriage

DEAR ABBY: I’m a gay man who has been married to a wonderful man for seven years (together for 12). Throughout our relationship, my husband has struggled with religious trauma that affects his desire (and ability) to be intimate. We’ve seen counselors, talked through it and addressed the value we place on physical intimacy. Nothing … Read more

Dear Abby: My daughter stopped speaking to me and I don’t want her at my deathbed

Dear Abby: My daughter stopped speaking to me and I don’t want her at my deathbed

DEAR ABBY: For years, my only daughter and I got along pretty well. Then she stopped visiting or speaking to us, meaning we didn’t see our grandchildren or my son-in-law. That went on for six to eight years. Suddenly, she has responded on Facebook but refuses to tell me what the problem was.  When you … Read more