The word advice comes from the Vulgar Latin phrase mi est visum or “in my view,” and more specifically the Latin visum, “to see.” Apropos of this etymology, we as people seek advice as a means of being seen and to find that which falls above and beyond our own world view. Since advice is drawn from experience, … Read more
A few nights ago, a male friend of mine was moaning about a predicament he had got himself in. You see, at the ripe ol’ age of 58, he was running around after two toddlers. His toddlers. To cut a long and slightly complicated story short, five years ago he left his wife for a … Read more
QUESTION: I recently found out my wife of 20 years – who was originally born overseas – has a bank account in her home country with about $50,000 in savings. The cash came from her own inheritance after her parents passed, and she insists she wants to use it on holidays we can enjoy together in … Read more
Mara and Christopher Doemland were constantly “at each other’s throats” until they quit sleeping together. Mara, 30, a stay-at-home-mom of five with tots ranging in age from 2 months to 10, was perpetually cranky due to a lack of sleep — mostly thanks to Christopher’s buzz saw-like snoring. And Christopher, 37, a work-from-home crypto day trader, … Read more
‘Til sleep deficit do us part? Incessant morning alarms and a crescendo of house-rattling snores could drive a wedge in a marriage and make it nearly impossible to catch some z’s, prompting an estimated one-third of couples to file for “sleep divorce.” A recent survey from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine of more than … Read more
A man on Reddit is asking if he’s being unfair to his fiancée after their argument about the size of their wedding guest list upset his bride-to-be. The anonymous man, who goes by the Reddit username Randomthro1234 and claims he’s 29 years old, turned to the popular “Am I the A–hole” subreddit, which has over 9 million … Read more
A woman claims she is “devastated” after discovering old text messages on her husband’s phone calling her “ugly” and bragging about how he was using her. Jane Lewis, 40, from New Jersey revealed that she was scrolling through her unidentified husband’s phone with permission when she came across disturbing text messages from when the two … Read more
I’m about to ask a question that may trigger some people, but take a deep breath and really ponder on it, because you may see that I actually have a jolly good point. What came first … the cheating or the lack of sex? I ask this because I had an interesting discussion with a … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I would like your help on how to deal with a problem I am having with my mother-in-law. The in-laws call at least once a week wanting us to go out to dinner with them. It’s embarrassing because my mother-in-law is always horrible to the waiter. She complains about everything and usually causes … Read more
Struggling to stay connected to your spouse? Forget separate bedrooms. Try separate houses. A Brooklyn woman believes the secret to her happy marriage is living apart from her Manhattan husband. Bianca Turetsky, 43, and Dr. Peter Bach, 58, tied the knot in September 2021 and subsequently surprised friends and family by bucking convention by maintaining … Read more
A marriage counselor whose husband allegedly cheated on her with another woman says staying with her straying spouse has been the best decision of her life. Charity Craig, 46, is now on a mission to tell other wives that they’re not weak if they choose to stand by their man and their marriage. “When you … Read more
A UK-based therapist says a new relationship trend called “delicate dumping” is wrong and “cruel” — and encourages those who are ending a relationship to be clear in their actions. Delicate dumping involves taking a step back from a relationship without having a breakup conversation. It’s about employing tactics such as ghosting, replying to a … Read more
In mid-2020, at the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic, Vanessa Marin felt “the bristle.” Whenever her husband of 12 years, Xander, 37, tried to hug or kiss her, she’d recoil and a skin-crawling shudder would surge through her body. “I didn’t want to be touched,” said Marin, 39, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex. “It … Read more
DEAR ABBY: There is a man I may be attracted to and have a lot in common with. The problem is that his teeth are crooked and yellow, and I can’t get past that. He’s quite a bit older than I am, so I’m not sure that we would get together even if he got … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have a lovely life — a wonderful husband and five caring children entering adulthood. I have a successful career I am well compensated for. The problem I face is that at 47, my health is such that I live every day in debilitating pain. I spend my energy getting through my day … Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am in my 40s and have been divorced for seven years after an awful marriage. I have two daughters who would love for me to meet someone and have the loving relationship I deserve. The problem is, I fell in love with someone after my divorce, and he decided to marry someone … Read more
One man’s thoughtful gift is another’s thoughtless gaffe. A woman is going viral after revealed that her “considerably overweight” husband bought her a pricey gym membership for Christmas — after sharing rude comments about her weight. “This Christmas, my husband gifted me a very expensive gym membership for 12 months. I am very fit and … Read more
For better or worse, he didn’t mean to kick her to the curb. A Thai driver is being ridiculed online after accidentally leaving his passenger behind during a pee stop on Christmas day — which forced her to walk over 12 miles to seek help. The marriage-testing mistake occurred after Boontom Chaimoon, 55 and his … Read more
If you’ve been following my column this year, you will notice I’ve become slightly obsessed with this new craze taking over the dating world called ENM which stands for ethically non-monogamous. It is defined as a committed romantic relationship wherein all partners consent to sexual and/or romantic encounters with other consenting individuals. I’ve debated whether it’s … Read more
DEAR ABBY: Where do I begin? I’ve been a loyal reader of your column for years. I have been married to my current husband for 14 not-good years. He was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and cardiomyopathy seven years ago and hasn’t had a job since then. We have a daughter who … Read more